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If I Knew Then: What I would Tell My 25-Year-Old Self About Business and Faith

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Building a company can feel like sprinting on shifting sand. You add more plans, more metrics, more hours—yet somehow gain less clarity about what actually matters. Early on, the pressure is intoxicating. Growth becomes the goal, speed becomes the virtue, and outcomes quietly begin to define your worth.

If I could sit across from my 25‑year‑old self, this would be the first reset I’d offer: success is not your identity; it’s a tool.

When outcomes rule your sense of value, you pay hidden costs. Health erodes. Marriages strain. Integrity gets negotiated. What looks like progress on paper can be decay beneath the surface. Success is like fire: in the fireplace, it warms the house; outside the hearth, it burns it down. The difference isn’t the fire—it’s the boundaries.

We don’t need more hustle. We need a better blueprint—one that puts character, wisdom, and obedience ahead of speed. Leaders rarely fail for lack of data. They fail when assumptions go unchallenged and ego pours concrete on a flawed foundation. Speed without wisdom doesn’t build a house; it collapses one. Slow down long enough to build right, so the weight of growth doesn’t crush you later.

Who You’re Becoming Matters More Than What You’re Building

Here’s the deeper shift I wish I’d embraced sooner: God cares more about who you’re becoming than what you’re building.

Resumes don’t impress heaven; transformation does. We love to measure traction—revenue, reach, results—while God measures obedience, humility, and faithfulness. Skills may open doors, but character determines how long you’re trusted in the room.

That’s why delays aren’t always punishment. Often, they’re protection.

The version of you that launches a business is rarely the version meant to lead it at scale. Capacity expands as maturity deepens. Spiritual formation stretches leadership far beyond talent alone. Growth requires surrender, not just strategy. If you gain the world yet lose your soul, your scoreboard is wrong—and the prize becomes a prison.

When success becomes ultimate, it demands sacrifices it can never repay. When God is ultimate, success becomes a servant instead of a master.

Obedience Comes Before Clarity

One of the most counterintuitive truths in leadership is this: obedience precedes clarity.

Many of us demand a five‑year plan when God often gives only the next step. Think headlights on a dark road—they illuminate just enough pavement to keep moving, not the entire journey. Overplanning can disguise fear as wisdom, breeding analysis paralysis while opportunities quietly pass by.

Courageous leaders act on the light they have.

Each obedient step expands vision, strengthens resolve, and aligns timing. Direction comes before destination. The guarantee isn’t certainty—it’s presence. As you practice this, anxious control gives way to steady trust. You discover that clarity is usually a byproduct of faithful motion, not perfect information.

Waiting for full clarity before moving is often a subtle refusal to trust.

Rest Is Not Laziness—It’s Theology

On work rhythms, this is the truth I resisted the longest: overwork is not a badge of honor; often it’s a confession that we trust hustle more than God’s provision.

Rest is not laziness. It’s theology.

Sabbath confronts performance‑based identity and reminds us that we are not what we produce. It declares that the world—and the business—can survive without us for a moment. Companies that model this make courageous choices, sometimes at real cost: closing one day a week, enforcing healthy boundaries, protecting margin.

Redlining an engine might win a lap, but it never wins the race. Burnout, turnover, and poor judgment always follow. A healthy pace clarifies what’s urgent versus what’s truly important. Leaders who protect rest make better decisions, build better teams, and finish the race with something left in the tank.

Sustainable leadership requires rhythms, not just resolve.

People Are Not a Means to an End

Results matter. But people are eternal.

If you punish mistakes publicly, you teach teams to hide problems. You may hit targets and still miss the mission. Fear can force compliance, but only trust builds commitment. Metrics track output; relationships unlock ownership.

Invest in people. Develop them. See them.

Multiplication always beats pressure for sustainable growth. Jesus led patiently with imperfect, messy learners—and changed the world. High‑performing but high‑turnover cultures run hot and die early. People‑first leadership builds legacy that lasts.

If your success requires leaving a trail of wounded people behind you, it isn’t success—it’s extraction.

Your Words Build the World Others Live In

Leadership is verbal stewardship. Every word plants seeds.

Your language shapes culture the way a rudder steers a ship. Speak life, not scarcity. Hope, not fear. Truth, not hype. Culture isn’t declared; it’s grown through daily language and consistent action.

And remember this: private victories write public legacy.

Integrity in hidden places—honesty when no one’s watching, generosity without applause, restraint when compromise is easier—becomes the foundation no one sees yet everyone stands on. Long before a leader falls publicly, they drift privately.

Guard the unseen, and the seen will take care of itself.

Three Questions I Wish I’d Asked Sooner

If I could leave my younger self with anything, it would be these questions—questions worth revisiting often:

  1. What version of success am I chasing?
  2. Where am I substituting activity for obedience?
  3. Who am I becoming while I build?

Build the business. Grow the company. Chase excellence.

Just don’t let the business build you.

Because in the end, the truest measure of success isn’t what you achieved—it’s who you became while achieving it.

Great Leaders Don’t Rush To Answers; They Ask Better Questions

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Success in business is rarely about having the fastest answers; it’s about asking the questions that surface truth, expose blind spots, and invite God’s wisdom into daily decisions. Scripture anchors this posture. James urges us to be swift to hear and slow to speak, while Proverbs reminds us that insight draws out deep purposes. Jesus modeled this by shaping hearts with questions that clarified identity, challenged motives, and sparked faith. In a marketplace that rewards urgency, the leader who pauses to ask the right question gains what speed can’t deliver: discernment, alignment, and sustainable impact grounded in purpose.

Elite leaders evolve from being answer givers to problem framers. As complexity rises, variables multiply and certainty fades, so reframing becomes essential. Three categories of questions help: strategic questions define direction and test alignment to mission; operational questions reveal friction, waste, and broken processes; and leadership-and-culture questions uncover unspoken issues, reward structures, and the real behaviors teams imitate. Like GPS, clarity begins with destination, not directions. When leaders start with “Where are we actually going, and what is God calling us to build?” tactics snap into place and wasted motion declines.

The best leaders act like great physicians. They diagnose before prescribing, probing for root causes instead of throwing solutions at symptoms. They ask where customers disengage, which promises operations can’t keep, and whether growth is scaling clarity or dysfunction. They think like chess players, not checker movers, weighing not just the next action but the position it creates three moves ahead. This mindset prevents whiplash strategy, improves cross-functional trust, and builds resilience when the market shifts. It also cultivates a team habit of curiosity where data, not ego, wins.

Practical rhythms keep this alive. Weekly, ask God one hard question and journal the nudges, themes, and convictions that surface. Ask one curiosity-based question to a team member to open space for candor. Annually, run a rigorous review: what worked, what failed, what small effort yields outsized gains, and what deep weakness must be faced. These reflections turn answers into fuel for the business and questions into fuel for the leader. Over time, the organization grows healthier instead of merely bigger, with clearer priorities, better stewardship, and stronger culture.

Case studies prove the power of questions. Jeff Bezos institutionalized the customer by leaving an empty chair in executive meetings, forcing one question to lead: what is best for the customer? Prime shipping and one‑click purchasing grew from that relentless lens. Satya Nadella shifted Microsoft from know‑it‑all to learn‑it‑all with one question: what if we focused on learning over proving we’re smart? That cultural pivot unlocked cloud leadership and collaborative innovation. Howard Schultz asked what experience Starbucks was really creating, reframing coffee as a third place where people feel known. Each leader used questions to honor people, invite humility, and clarify purpose—habits that outlast trends.

For faith-driven leaders, this is kingdom leadership. Answers can grow revenue, but questions grow wisdom and character. When we align with God’s purposes and pursue truth with humility, our businesses serve people better and endure longer. Build your leadership on discerning questions, protect learning over ego, and measure success by the health and service your work creates. Start this week with one courageous question to God, one to your team, and one to yourself. Then listen, write, and act with clarity.

Wack-A-Mole Is Not A Management Strategy

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Success follows the quiet shape of our days. When we step back from the noise of urgent messages and surprise fires, a pattern appears: the leaders who thrive align daily habits with purpose. The episode argues that godly success is not random chance but the fruit of deliberate routines rooted in Scripture, personal growth, and disciplined execution. From Aristotle’s reminder that excellence is a habit to biblical examples of consistent prayer and commitment, the throughline is simple: our small, repeated choices move our businesses toward impact or drift. The antidote to whack-a-mole management is a plan you live out each day.

Discipline is the engine that powers those choices, especially when emotions run low or distractions run high. Record-breaking athletes do not wait for inspiration to train; they train, and inspiration often follows. Business leadership is no different. Discipline brings security, clarity, and momentum. It turns vague intention into concrete action. It builds confidence because you can trust yourself to do what matters. It creates focus by filtering your day through purpose. It even lifts morale; a well-run day leaves less space for cynicism. The hosts frame pain points as signals of where discipline is missing. If projects stall or emails own your schedule, it’s less about capability and more about structure.

Personal growth anchors the routine. Start with Scripture, emphasizing quality over quantity so the Word shapes choices instead of becoming a checkbox. Pair that with focused prayer—direct, specific conversations that align your motives and decisions. Add a daily investment in learning: a chapter of a leadership book, a relevant podcast, or an industry article. Physical exercise earns its place too, boosting energy and resilience with endorphins that temper stress. These habits are small levers with large effects; done consistently, they compound. The spiritual foundation also grounds ambition, redirecting it from ego to service, stewardship, and excellence before God and people.

Administrative hygiene keeps the day from leaking. Email is useful until it becomes the boss. The guidance is clear: avoid email first thing; reserve set windows to check it; handle replies that take under five minutes immediately; quit long back-and-forth threads and pick up the phone. Use two folders—Action and Waiting For—to empty your inbox and clarify next steps. The same mindset applies to mail and voicemail: delegate whenever possible and only personally handle items only you can address. These simple rules reclaim mental bandwidth and turn communication into a tool rather than a trap.

Production habits translate purpose into results. Maintain a single to-do system—digital or paper—and capture everything. Prioritize daily with an honest lens; research suggests you can only manage two or three active projects well. Do the hardest, most valuable task first to free attention for the rest. Learn one new thing about your business each day so insight grows with operations. Schedule short thinking time to refine goals and ideas, jotting notes that become plans. Manage by wandering around: ask questions on the floor, listen for friction, and invite creativity. You’ll discover both waste to remove and talent to unleash when you walk where the work happens.

Finally, lead people with rhythm. Meet weekly with a manageable span of control—around seven direct reports, give or take—to remove blockers and align priorities. Consistency here builds trust and accelerates execution. Throughout, the message returns to the same thesis: your future is being formed by what you repeatedly do. Choose habits that honor God, focus your mind, and move your team. When the day reflects the mission, results follow—and so does peace.

Stop Letting Distractions Steal Your Success

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Distraction is not a minor nuisance in leadership; it is a silent killer of calling, culture, and results. When time, talent, and treasure are siphoned by constant noise, even high-capacity leaders drift from purpose. The episode frames this challenge through a biblical lens, drawing on stories like Mary and Martha, the sower among thorns, Solomon’s compromises, and Samson’s downfall to show how misplaced attention erodes fruitfulness. Modern leaders face the same forces, just packaged as phones, feeds, and frantic schedules. True godly success, unlike the world’s version, demands focus, priority, and obedience. The call is to choose what matters most and create stillness where wisdom can be heard.

The research on distraction is sobering. Many knowledge workers can’t sustain 30 minutes of deep focus, and organizations lose hundreds of hours per person each year to task-switching. Behind those numbers sit root causes: dopamine chasing, fear of missing out, lack of a clear North Star, people-pleasing identities, missing systems, guilt-driven workaholism, and ego-fueled control. Each reason makes distractions feel reasonable—urgent emails, “quick” chats, or a new tool that promises ease. But the cost is compound: every interruption triggers a recovery lag, fractures strategic thinking, and trains the brain to prefer shallow tasks. Without intentional change, leaders confuse activity with progress and busyness with impact.

Today’s biggest distractions cluster into a few themes. Digital overload tops the list: email sprawl, social media loops, relentless notifications, and news grazing. People noise also drains momentum, from unplanned meetings to firefighting that leaders should delegate. Internal noise—perfectionism, guilt, and avoidance—keeps hard but vital tasks at arm’s length. Even material noise matters: cluttered spaces and domestic interruptions dilute attention and energy. Recognizing distraction as noise is liberating because it reframes the goal: not to do everything faster, but to feed the signal and starve the noise. That shift reclaims creative thought, prayerful planning, and decisive execution.

Why do distractions win? They are immediate, easy, loud, and endless. Goals live in the distance; notifications reward us now. Discipline hurts at first; scrolling does not. Alerts shout; priority whispers. The internet is infinite; your day is not. The antidote is to engineer your environment in favor of focus. Time-block deep work when your mind is strongest, limit email checks to set windows, and turn off nonessential notifications. Build systems and SOPs so your team can act without you. Create clarity with a written North Star and goals, because when purpose is clear, false urgency loses its grip. Then guard stillness—brief daily moments with no inputs—to reset attention and hear God’s wisdom.

A practical four-phase plan brings this together. First, name your distractions: run a brief audit for a week and list the top three triggers that reliably pull you off track. Second, get order: time-block your calendar, use the 80-20 rule to prioritize, and separate deep work, meetings, and admin into distinct blocks. Third, concentrate: single-task like a sniper, putting your phone out of reach and refusing to multitask. Fourth, unplug: kill the noise, treat email as communication rather than a to-do list, and experiment with a 30-day social media fast. Pair this with the “eat the frog” habit—do the hardest, highest-leverage task first—to remove the mental drag that makes distractions attractive.

Leadership that seeks godly success must pair spiritual focus with practical boundaries. Set your mind on things above by deciding, in advance, what gets your best hours. Replace the identity of the hero fixer with the identity of the steward builder who equips others. Measure progress not by how busy you feel but by the outcomes aligned with your calling. As you reduce noise and increase signal, you will find more peace, better decisions, stronger teams, and steady momentum. Distractions do not disappear, but they lose power when you choose purpose over impulse, clarity over clutter, and presence over pings.

Purpose Beats Profit: Why That Empty Feeling Isn’t Fixed by Success

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Finding your purpose isn’t just a nice-to-have in today’s world—it has become increasingly essential for our very survival. The heartbreaking story of a healthy 90-year-old artist and professor who chose assisted suicide simply because she felt she lacked purpose should serve as a stark wake-up call. Similarly, the alarming rates of suicide among military veterans who struggle to find meaning after service highlights the devastating consequences when humans lose their sense of significance. As Rick Warren powerfully stated, “The greatest tragedy is not death but life without purpose.”

For Christian business leaders, understanding your God-given purpose isn’t merely philosophical—it’s foundational to authentic leadership and lasting impact. Ephesians 1:11 reminds us that we have “been chosen, predestined according to the purpose of him, who works all things according to the counsel of his will.” This divine appointment isn’t reserved solely for clergy or missionaries; it extends to entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals across all industries. Your business isn’t separate from God’s calling—it’s an integral part of it.

When you operate from a place of clear purpose, several transformational benefits emerge. First, purpose serves as a decision-making compass, providing clarity even amid complex challenges and ethical dilemmas. No longer will you be swayed by temporary gains that compromise your values. Second, purpose generates resilience during adversity. Economic downturns, competitive pressures, and personal setbacks become more manageable when you’re anchored in something greater than quarterly profits. You persevere because you understand that your work has eternal significance.

Purpose-driven leadership also inspires your team in remarkable ways. When employees connect with a vision beyond mere profit, they develop deeper loyalty, increased motivation, and higher productivity. They’re no longer just earning a paycheck—they’re contributing to something meaningful. This creates a culture of engagement where talent thrives and turnover diminishes. Furthermore, your business becomes a platform for Kingdom impact, allowing you to steward resources in ways that serve others and reflect Christ’s love in the marketplace.

Perhaps most significantly, alignment with your God-given purpose produces personal fulfillment that transcends financial success. While prosperity may be a byproduct of purposeful work, the joy and satisfaction that come from knowing you’re fulfilling your divine calling are far more valuable than monetary wealth alone. As Ephesians 4:16 indicates, when each part of the body does its “own special work,” it contributes to the health and growth of the entire body of Christ. Your business—when aligned with purpose—becomes a vital organ in this living ecosystem.

Ignoring your purpose carries serious consequences. Beyond the disconnection from God’s calling and missed opportunities for Kingdom impact, you’ll likely experience professional drift. Teams lacking direction struggle with high turnover, disengagement, and diminished productivity. The void created by purposelessness can’t be filled with more possessions, achievements, or recognitions—as countless wealthy but empty individuals have discovered.

Discovering your purpose requires intentionality. Begin by seeking God through prayer and Scripture, developing sensitivity to the Holy Spirit’s guidance. Study biblical passages about calling, stewardship, and service, particularly Romans 12:1-8 and Colossians 3:23-24. Journal what resonates with you, noting patterns and recurring themes that might indicate divine direction. Most importantly, reflect on your unique gifts and talents—these aren’t random but are divine indicators of your purpose. As 1 Corinthians 12:4-6 teaches, God equips each person with specific abilities to fulfill their calling.

Consider what skills others consistently affirm in you, what roles energize you, and how your gifts align with opportunities in your industry. Like finding tools in the trunk of your car might suggest your profession, your natural abilities point toward your purpose. A leader with exceptional communication skills might be called to advocate for ethical practices or mentor young professionals, while someone with analytical strengths might transform systems to better serve vulnerable populations.

He created you with intention and design. Your work matters eternally when aligned with His purpose.