The Lies That Are Costing You Everything

Five Leadership Beliefs That Quietly Limit God’s Best for You

Most leaders assume the barriers holding them back are external—market conditions, competition, staffing shortages, or lack of time. But more often than not, the most stubborn obstacles aren’t visible at all. They are internal. They are beliefs.

And the most dangerous beliefs don’t sound reckless or rebellious. They whisper. They sound reasonable. Responsible. Even spiritual.

Over time, however, these quiet assumptions drain your energy, restrict your influence, and place a ceiling on what God wants to do through you as a leader.

In this conversation, we identify five common leadership lies and replace them with biblical truth and practical action. But before we name the lies, we must learn how to recognize false beliefs in the first place.


How to Identify the False Beliefs Shaping Your Leadership

False beliefs are subtle. They rarely announce themselves as lies. Instead, they reveal themselves through patterns.

First, look at what exhausts you most.
Where do you feel emotionally drained? Where does resentment creep in? What do you find yourself complaining about repeatedly? Burnout is often belief‑based, not workload‑based. When exhaustion is chronic, it usually points to an internal assumption that needs to be confronted.

Second, listen to your language.
Beliefs leak through words. Phrases like “I don’t have time,” “No one will do it right,” “I’ll fix it later,” or “I can’t let go yet” reveal assumptions about control, trust, and worth. Jesus said, “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34). Words are not neutral. They plant seeds—either of growth or limitation—in your mind and in the culture around you.

Third, examine your bottlenecks.
If everything must pass through you, the issue is not the system. It’s not your team. It’s not even capacity. It’s a belief tying your value to your involvement. That’s not condemnation—it’s clarity. And clarity is the first step toward freedom.


Leadership Lie #1: “If I Don’t Do It, It Won’t Get Done (Right)”

This lie sounds responsible. It feels efficient. But it quietly binds leadership to personal output and caps growth at the limits of one person’s capacity.

Moses fell into this trap. Faithful, called, and sincere—yet his leadership model was unsustainable. Jethro’s warning was clear: “You will surely wear yourself out” (Exodus 18:18).

Modern organizations see the same pattern. Early‑stage founders who never transition from operator to leader often stall between 7 and 15 employees. Everything depends on them—and that dependence becomes the bottleneck.

The breakthrough begins when leaders separate identity from output. Ask the hard question: Who am I if I’m not the one doing everything? Mature leadership delegates outcomes, not tasks. It defines success clearly, allows margin for imperfection, and intentionally schedules the leader out of the process.

Growth requires trust. Multiplication requires release. God does not grow organizations through exhausted leaders, but through empowered people.


Leadership Lie #2: “Strong Leaders Don’t Show Weakness”

This lie produces leaders who look confident on the outside but carry isolation on the inside. When vulnerability is viewed as a threat, teams learn to hide problems instead of solving them.

King Saul prioritized image over obedience, and insecurity eventually unraveled his leadership. Scripture offers a radically different model. “When I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10).

Biblical strength is not self‑sufficiency; it is submission to God. Practicing selective transparency—sharing struggles with appropriate boundaries—builds trust without oversharing. When leaders model asking for help, they create psychological safety, which research consistently identifies as the top predictor of high‑performing teams.

You can say, “I don’t have all the answers,” while still saying, “Here’s where we’re going.” Authority rooted in humility invites ownership, honesty, and early problem‑solving. Godly strength includes humility, honesty, and teachability.


Leadership Lie #3: “If People Care Enough, They’ll Figure It Out”

This lie confuses care with clarity. Expecting people to deliver without clear direction guarantees frustration, missed expectations, and rework.

The Bible uses a vivid metaphor: “If the trumpet makes an uncertain sound, who will prepare for battle?” (1 Corinthians 14:8). Execution requires clarity.

Nehemiah understood this. He clearly defined the mission, roles, timeline, and standards—and the wall was rebuilt in record time. High‑trust leadership does not avoid clarity; it multiplies it.

The practical shift is to assume confusion before incompetence. Define the what, the why, and the win. Repeat clarity more than feels necessary, check for understanding instead of agreement, and document what matters most so expectations don’t fade.

Clear expectations are not control—they are kindness. Clarity frees people to focus their energy on execution rather than guessing your intent.


Leadership Lie #4: “Results Matter More Than Relationships”

This belief treats people as tools to achieve outcomes. The result is compliance instead of commitment, high turnover, and a fragile culture that cracks under pressure.

Rehoboam learned this the hard way. By choosing harsh leadership over wisdom, he lost the kingdom (1 Kings 12). Scripture urges leaders to “know well the condition of your flocks” (Proverbs 27:23).

Relationships are not a distraction from results—they are the delivery system. Organizations with high engagement significantly outperform their peers, not because they lower standards, but because trust accelerates execution.

Healthy leaders measure relational health alongside performance, correct privately, celebrate publicly, and slow down enough to truly see people. Presence often communicates value faster than policy ever will. People are not resources to consume; they are stewards to develop. And people, not processes, are the strategy.


Leadership Lie #5: “Once Things Calm Down, I’ll Lead Better”

This lie postpones obedience. It assumes leadership quality depends on circumstances rather than character.

David led faithfully in caves, on battlefields, and in palaces. Jesus affirmed the same principle: “Be faithful in little”(Luke 16:10). Leadership is never paused—it is revealed.

Waiting for calm before leading well is like waiting for traffic to clear before learning to drive. The answer is not fewer demands, but non‑negotiable rhythms that anchor leadership regardless of season. Decide who you are before pressure decides for you. Lead your energy before leading others. Practice faithfulness now, because better leadership later is built by obedience today.

Busyness often masks avoidance. Pruning the calendar and guarding energy creates space for wisdom. Lead with a “day one” mentality—urgent, disciplined, and anchored in purpose.


Turning Insight into Action

Awareness alone does not produce change. Application does.

This week, consider three simple but courageous steps:

  1. Identify one false belief that has shaped your leadership.
  2. Delegate one meaningful outcome, with clear success criteria.
  3. Pray one dangerous prayer:
    “Lord, help me trust You enough to let go.”

Use practical tools—written expectations, simple scorecards, regular check‑ins—to sustain clarity when pressure rises. As you replace false beliefs with truth, your words will plant better seeds, your culture will strengthen, and your results will scale through people, not around them.

The goal is not to do more.
It is to become a more faithful steward.

Lead well.
Steward wisely.
Trust God fully.

Stop Planting Weeds And Start Planting Oak Trees: How Great Leaders Think

Most leaders don’t fail due to lack of skill; they stall because of how they think. That is the central thread tying together comfort zones, scarcity, ego, and the addiction to short-term approval. The episode opens with gratitude for a growing community and a clear aim: help Christian professionals align their leadership with biblical wisdom that produces lasting fruit. We anchor the conversation in Proverbs 23:7 and the call to renew the mind. When thinking shifts, behavior follows. When behavior shifts, culture changes. And when culture changes, results compound. The goal is more than profit; it is godly success that stands up in the light, serves people well, and points to a larger purpose.

We first dismantle the obstacles that keep leaders average. Comfort zone gravity makes small thinking feel safe, like staying under warm covers on a cold morning. Scarcity programming convinces us the pie is fixed, which leads to micromanagement and bottlenecks that choke enterprise value. Fear of looking stupid traps potential in silence; better to be a rookie on a rocket ship than captain a sinking one. Short-term scoreboard addiction rewards quick optics over legacy impact. The lone wolf myth taxes you with ignorance. And confusing servant leadership with people-pleasing weakens standards. Each obstacle masquerades as wisdom, but the throughline is fear. The remedy is courage: name it, face it, and kill it.

From there we outline seven thinking patterns of great leaders. First, they think big because they serve a big God, refusing visions sized only to present resources. They plant oak trees, not annuals. Second, they put people first, knowing profit follows value creation and that serving employees multiplies service to customers. Third, they think without lines, refusing artificial boundaries and industry myths by returning to first principles. This mindset invites calculated risk and fresh questions that unlock step-change improvements rather than incremental tweaks. Fourth, they think long term, trading applause now for compounding impact later, measuring success beyond quarters to transformed lives and durable culture.

Fifth, they operate from abundance, aligning with John 10:10 and rejecting the lie of scarcity. Abundance expands collaboration, raises standards, and loosens the grip of control. Sixth, they think continually, staying allergic to “I already know that” and maintaining an open, learning posture that accelerates adaptation. A mind works like a parachute: useful only when open. Seventh, they think stewardship, not ownership, treating money, people, customers, and opportunities as God’s and themselves as managers. Stewardship elevates accountability and precision; it fuels integrity in small things so God can entrust greater things.

To put this into practice, we offer a 30-day challenge: stretch your goals tenfold and share them, deliver daily acts of unexpected value, break one sacred-cow rule that no longer serves the mission, and ask five people how you can serve them better, then act on it. Alongside that challenge, use prompts to audit your mindset: will your 80-year-old self thank today’s choices, where did you choose abundance over fear, and what did you learn that made you uneasy? The transformation of thinking is the foundation of transformed leadership. When vision enlarges, hearts expand, and service deepens, organizations become places where excellence and faith reinforce each other. That is godly success: courageous thinking, people-centered action, and stewardship that outlasts any title.

From Chaos to Clarity: How Godly Habits Shape Successful Leaders

In today’s high-pressure business environment, where decisions impact stakeholders and competition demands agility, effective leadership requires more than just good intentions—it requires consistent, positive habits. As Harold Milby explains in this week’s Christian Business Concepts podcast, habits are the small, repeatable actions that compound over time to create significant outcomes in your business and leadership effectiveness.

Research from Duke University indicates that 40-45% of our daily actions are habitual rather than conscious decisions. For business leaders, this means that habits can make or break your ability to navigate challenges, inspire teams, and achieve long-term goals. As legendary coach Vince Lombardi said, “Winning is not a sometimes thing, it’s an all-the-time thing.” The power of habits lies in their ability to improve decision-making, enhance productivity, strengthen team dynamics, and build resilience—all crucial elements for successful leadership.

The science of habit formation follows a three-part loop identified by Charles Duhigg in “The Power of Habit”: a cue (trigger that initiates behavior), routine (the action taken), and reward (benefit that reinforces the habit). Understanding this cycle is vital for creating lasting positive habits and eliminating negative ones. Scripture reinforces this understanding of habit formation. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Romans 12:2 encourages transformation through the renewing of our minds, and Hebrews 12:1 speaks to the discipline of perseverance—all principles that align with modern habit science.

To build positive leadership habits, Harold outlines a six-step process inspired by James Clear’s “Atomic Habits”: 1) Clarify what you want to achieve as a leader, 2) Design your environment by removing temptations and adding positive cues, 3) Start small with tiny, actionable habits, 4) Create environmental cues that trigger positive behaviors, 5) Stack new habits onto existing ones, and 6) Track your progress consistently. A seventh crucial step is to reward yourself to reinforce these new behaviors. The Bible reminds us in Zechariah 4:10 not to “despise small beginnings”—it’s okay to start small, but the important thing is to start.

For Christian business leaders specifically, certain habits can be transformative: daily prioritizing (spending 5-10 minutes each morning identifying your top three priorities), active listening in meetings, time-blocking for deep work, gratitude practice, self-care routines, regular feedback loops, continuous learning, and daily devotion and prayer. Perhaps most importantly, Harold emphasizes the habit of swapping worry with prayer, citing Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Overcoming negative habits requires identifying triggers, replacing negative routines with positive ones, changing your environment, finding accountability, and reframing your mindset. Bryant McGill wisely noted that “the secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” For Christian leaders, that greater love is our calling to fulfill God’s purpose, lead with excellence, love others, and advance His kingdom.

The journey to better habits doesn’t require perfection—just persistence. If you slip up, don’t self-criticize but instead focus on progress. Start with just one habit today and commit to a 21-day challenge. These small steps, taken consistently, will yield tremendous impact not just on your business success but on your eternal impact as a leader called by God to make a difference in the marketplace.

The Power of Habits in Christian Business Leadership

In today’s high-pressure business environment, where decisions impact stakeholders and competition demands agility, effective leadership requires more than just good intentions—it requires consistent, positive habits. As Harold Milby explains in this week’s Christian Business Concepts podcast, habits are the small, repeatable actions that compound over time to create significant outcomes in your business and leadership effectiveness.

Research from Duke University indicates that 40-45% of our daily actions are habitual rather than conscious decisions. For business leaders, this means that habits can make or break your ability to navigate challenges, inspire teams, and achieve long-term goals. As legendary coach Vince Lombardi said, “Winning is not a sometimes thing, it’s an all-the-time thing.” The power of habits lies in their ability to improve decision-making, enhance productivity, strengthen team dynamics, and build resilience—all crucial elements for successful leadership.

The science of habit formation follows a three-part loop identified by Charles Duhigg in “The Power of Habit”: a cue (trigger that initiates behavior), routine (the action taken), and reward (benefit that reinforces the habit). Understanding this cycle is vital for creating lasting positive habits and eliminating negative ones. Scripture reinforces this understanding of habit formation. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Romans 12:2 encourages transformation through the renewing of our minds, and Hebrews 12:1 speaks to the discipline of perseverance—all principles that align with modern habit science.

To build positive leadership habits, Harold outlines a six-step process inspired by James Clear’s “Atomic Habits”: 1) Clarify what you want to achieve as a leader, 2) Design your environment by removing temptations and adding positive cues, 3) Start small with tiny, actionable habits, 4) Create environmental cues that trigger positive behaviors, 5) Stack new habits onto existing ones, and 6) Track your progress consistently. A seventh crucial step is to reward yourself to reinforce these new behaviors. The Bible reminds us in Zechariah 4:10 not to “despise small beginnings”—it’s okay to start small, but the important thing is to start.

For Christian business leaders specifically, certain habits can be transformative: daily prioritizing (spending 5-10 minutes each morning identifying your top three priorities), active listening in meetings, time-blocking for deep work, gratitude practice, self-care routines, regular feedback loops, continuous learning, and daily devotion and prayer. Perhaps most importantly, Harold emphasizes the habit of swapping worry with prayer, citing Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Overcoming negative habits requires identifying triggers, replacing negative routines with positive ones, changing your environment, finding accountability, and reframing your mindset. Bryant McGill wisely noted that “the secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” For Christian leaders, that greater love is our calling to fulfill God’s purpose, lead with excellence, love others, and advance His kingdom.

The journey to better habits doesn’t require perfection—just persistence. If you slip up, don’t self-criticize but instead focus on progress. Start with just one habit today and commit to a 21-day challenge. These small steps, taken consistently, will yield tremendous impact not just on your business success but on your eternal impact as a leader called by God to make a difference in the marketplace.

In today’s high-pressure business environment, where decisions impact stakeholders and competition demands agility, effective leadership requires more than just good intentions—it requires consistent, positive habits. As Harold Milby explains in this week’s Christian Business Concepts podcast, habits are the small, repeatable actions that compound over time to create significant outcomes in your business and leadership effectiveness.

Research from Duke University indicates that 40-45% of our daily actions are habitual rather than conscious decisions. For business leaders, this means that habits can make or break your ability to navigate challenges, inspire teams, and achieve long-term goals. As legendary coach Vince Lombardi said, “Winning is not a sometimes thing, it’s an all-the-time thing.” The power of habits lies in their ability to improve decision-making, enhance productivity, strengthen team dynamics, and build resilience—all crucial elements for successful leadership.

The science of habit formation follows a three-part loop identified by Charles Duhigg in “The Power of Habit”: a cue (trigger that initiates behavior), routine (the action taken), and reward (benefit that reinforces the habit). Understanding this cycle is vital for creating lasting positive habits and eliminating negative ones. Scripture reinforces this understanding of habit formation. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Romans 12:2 encourages transformation through the renewing of our minds, and Hebrews 12:1 speaks to the discipline of perseverance—all principles that align with modern habit science.

To build positive leadership habits, Harold outlines a six-step process inspired by James Clear’s “Atomic Habits”: 1) Clarify what you want to achieve as a leader, 2) Design your environment by removing temptations and adding positive cues, 3) Start small with tiny, actionable habits, 4) Create environmental cues that trigger positive behaviors, 5) Stack new habits onto existing ones, and 6) Track your progress consistently. A seventh crucial step is to reward yourself to reinforce these new behaviors. The Bible reminds us in Zechariah 4:10 not to “despise small beginnings”—it’s okay to start small, but the important thing is to start.

For Christian business leaders specifically, certain habits can be transformative: daily prioritizing (spending 5-10 minutes each morning identifying your top three priorities), active listening in meetings, time-blocking for deep work, gratitude practice, self-care routines, regular feedback loops, continuous learning, and daily devotion and prayer. Perhaps most importantly, Harold emphasizes the habit of swapping worry with prayer, citing Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Overcoming negative habits requires identifying triggers, replacing negative routines with positive ones, changing your environment, finding accountability, and reframing your mindset. Bryant McGill wisely noted that “the secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” For Christian leaders, that greater love is our calling to fulfill God’s purpose, lead with excellence, love others, and advance His kingdom.

The journey to better habits doesn’t require perfection—just persistence. If you slip up, don’t self-criticize but instead focus on progress. Start with just one habit today and commit to a 21-day challenge. These small steps, taken consistently, will yield tremendous impact not just on your business success but on your eternal impact as a leader called by God to make a difference in the marketplace.