If I Knew Then: What I would Tell My 25-Year-Old Self About Business and Faith

Building a company can feel like sprinting on shifting sand. You add more plans, more metrics, more hours—yet somehow gain less clarity about what actually matters. Early on, the pressure is intoxicating. Growth becomes the goal, speed becomes the virtue, and outcomes quietly begin to define your worth.

If I could sit across from my 25‑year‑old self, this would be the first reset I’d offer: success is not your identity; it’s a tool.

When outcomes rule your sense of value, you pay hidden costs. Health erodes. Marriages strain. Integrity gets negotiated. What looks like progress on paper can be decay beneath the surface. Success is like fire: in the fireplace, it warms the house; outside the hearth, it burns it down. The difference isn’t the fire—it’s the boundaries.

We don’t need more hustle. We need a better blueprint—one that puts character, wisdom, and obedience ahead of speed. Leaders rarely fail for lack of data. They fail when assumptions go unchallenged and ego pours concrete on a flawed foundation. Speed without wisdom doesn’t build a house; it collapses one. Slow down long enough to build right, so the weight of growth doesn’t crush you later.


Who You’re Becoming Matters More Than What You’re Building

Here’s the deeper shift I wish I’d embraced sooner: God cares more about who you’re becoming than what you’re building.

Resumes don’t impress heaven; transformation does. We love to measure traction—revenue, reach, results—while God measures obedience, humility, and faithfulness. Skills may open doors, but character determines how long you’re trusted in the room.

That’s why delays aren’t always punishment. Often, they’re protection.

The version of you that launches a business is rarely the version meant to lead it at scale. Capacity expands as maturity deepens. Spiritual formation stretches leadership far beyond talent alone. Growth requires surrender, not just strategy. If you gain the world yet lose your soul, your scoreboard is wrong—and the prize becomes a prison.

When success becomes ultimate, it demands sacrifices it can never repay. When God is ultimate, success becomes a servant instead of a master.


Obedience Comes Before Clarity

One of the most counterintuitive truths in leadership is this: obedience precedes clarity.

Many of us demand a five‑year plan when God often gives only the next step. Think headlights on a dark road—they illuminate just enough pavement to keep moving, not the entire journey. Overplanning can disguise fear as wisdom, breeding analysis paralysis while opportunities quietly pass by.

Courageous leaders act on the light they have.

Each obedient step expands vision, strengthens resolve, and aligns timing. Direction comes before destination. The guarantee isn’t certainty—it’s presence. As you practice this, anxious control gives way to steady trust. You discover that clarity is usually a byproduct of faithful motion, not perfect information.

Waiting for full clarity before moving is often a subtle refusal to trust.


Rest Is Not Laziness—It’s Theology

On work rhythms, this is the truth I resisted the longest: overwork is not a badge of honor; often it’s a confession that we trust hustle more than God’s provision.

Rest is not laziness. It’s theology.

Sabbath confronts performance‑based identity and reminds us that we are not what we produce. It declares that the world—and the business—can survive without us for a moment. Companies that model this make courageous choices, sometimes at real cost: closing one day a week, enforcing healthy boundaries, protecting margin.

Redlining an engine might win a lap, but it never wins the race. Burnout, turnover, and poor judgment always follow. A healthy pace clarifies what’s urgent versus what’s truly important. Leaders who protect rest make better decisions, build better teams, and finish the race with something left in the tank.

Sustainable leadership requires rhythms, not just resolve.


People Are Not a Means to an End

Results matter. But people are eternal.

If you punish mistakes publicly, you teach teams to hide problems. You may hit targets and still miss the mission. Fear can force compliance, but only trust builds commitment. Metrics track output; relationships unlock ownership.

Invest in people. Develop them. See them.

Multiplication always beats pressure for sustainable growth. Jesus led patiently with imperfect, messy learners—and changed the world. High‑performing but high‑turnover cultures run hot and die early. People‑first leadership builds legacy that lasts.

If your success requires leaving a trail of wounded people behind you, it isn’t success—it’s extraction.


Your Words Build the World Others Live In

Leadership is verbal stewardship. Every word plants seeds.

Your language shapes culture the way a rudder steers a ship. Speak life, not scarcity. Hope, not fear. Truth, not hype. Culture isn’t declared; it’s grown through daily language and consistent action.

And remember this: private victories write public legacy.

Integrity in hidden places—honesty when no one’s watching, generosity without applause, restraint when compromise is easier—becomes the foundation no one sees yet everyone stands on. Long before a leader falls publicly, they drift privately.

Guard the unseen, and the seen will take care of itself.


Three Questions I Wish I’d Asked Sooner

If I could leave my younger self with anything, it would be these questions—questions worth revisiting often:

  1. What version of success am I chasing?
  2. Where am I substituting activity for obedience?
  3. Who am I becoming while I build?

Build the business. Grow the company. Chase excellence.

Just don’t let the business build you.

Because in the end, the truest measure of success isn’t what you achieved—it’s who you became while achieving it.

The Lies That Are Costing You Everything

Five Leadership Beliefs That Quietly Limit God’s Best for You

Most leaders assume the barriers holding them back are external—market conditions, competition, staffing shortages, or lack of time. But more often than not, the most stubborn obstacles aren’t visible at all. They are internal. They are beliefs.

And the most dangerous beliefs don’t sound reckless or rebellious. They whisper. They sound reasonable. Responsible. Even spiritual.

Over time, however, these quiet assumptions drain your energy, restrict your influence, and place a ceiling on what God wants to do through you as a leader.

In this conversation, we identify five common leadership lies and replace them with biblical truth and practical action. But before we name the lies, we must learn how to recognize false beliefs in the first place.


How to Identify the False Beliefs Shaping Your Leadership

False beliefs are subtle. They rarely announce themselves as lies. Instead, they reveal themselves through patterns.

First, look at what exhausts you most.
Where do you feel emotionally drained? Where does resentment creep in? What do you find yourself complaining about repeatedly? Burnout is often belief‑based, not workload‑based. When exhaustion is chronic, it usually points to an internal assumption that needs to be confronted.

Second, listen to your language.
Beliefs leak through words. Phrases like “I don’t have time,” “No one will do it right,” “I’ll fix it later,” or “I can’t let go yet” reveal assumptions about control, trust, and worth. Jesus said, “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34). Words are not neutral. They plant seeds—either of growth or limitation—in your mind and in the culture around you.

Third, examine your bottlenecks.
If everything must pass through you, the issue is not the system. It’s not your team. It’s not even capacity. It’s a belief tying your value to your involvement. That’s not condemnation—it’s clarity. And clarity is the first step toward freedom.


Leadership Lie #1: “If I Don’t Do It, It Won’t Get Done (Right)”

This lie sounds responsible. It feels efficient. But it quietly binds leadership to personal output and caps growth at the limits of one person’s capacity.

Moses fell into this trap. Faithful, called, and sincere—yet his leadership model was unsustainable. Jethro’s warning was clear: “You will surely wear yourself out” (Exodus 18:18).

Modern organizations see the same pattern. Early‑stage founders who never transition from operator to leader often stall between 7 and 15 employees. Everything depends on them—and that dependence becomes the bottleneck.

The breakthrough begins when leaders separate identity from output. Ask the hard question: Who am I if I’m not the one doing everything? Mature leadership delegates outcomes, not tasks. It defines success clearly, allows margin for imperfection, and intentionally schedules the leader out of the process.

Growth requires trust. Multiplication requires release. God does not grow organizations through exhausted leaders, but through empowered people.


Leadership Lie #2: “Strong Leaders Don’t Show Weakness”

This lie produces leaders who look confident on the outside but carry isolation on the inside. When vulnerability is viewed as a threat, teams learn to hide problems instead of solving them.

King Saul prioritized image over obedience, and insecurity eventually unraveled his leadership. Scripture offers a radically different model. “When I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10).

Biblical strength is not self‑sufficiency; it is submission to God. Practicing selective transparency—sharing struggles with appropriate boundaries—builds trust without oversharing. When leaders model asking for help, they create psychological safety, which research consistently identifies as the top predictor of high‑performing teams.

You can say, “I don’t have all the answers,” while still saying, “Here’s where we’re going.” Authority rooted in humility invites ownership, honesty, and early problem‑solving. Godly strength includes humility, honesty, and teachability.


Leadership Lie #3: “If People Care Enough, They’ll Figure It Out”

This lie confuses care with clarity. Expecting people to deliver without clear direction guarantees frustration, missed expectations, and rework.

The Bible uses a vivid metaphor: “If the trumpet makes an uncertain sound, who will prepare for battle?” (1 Corinthians 14:8). Execution requires clarity.

Nehemiah understood this. He clearly defined the mission, roles, timeline, and standards—and the wall was rebuilt in record time. High‑trust leadership does not avoid clarity; it multiplies it.

The practical shift is to assume confusion before incompetence. Define the what, the why, and the win. Repeat clarity more than feels necessary, check for understanding instead of agreement, and document what matters most so expectations don’t fade.

Clear expectations are not control—they are kindness. Clarity frees people to focus their energy on execution rather than guessing your intent.


Leadership Lie #4: “Results Matter More Than Relationships”

This belief treats people as tools to achieve outcomes. The result is compliance instead of commitment, high turnover, and a fragile culture that cracks under pressure.

Rehoboam learned this the hard way. By choosing harsh leadership over wisdom, he lost the kingdom (1 Kings 12). Scripture urges leaders to “know well the condition of your flocks” (Proverbs 27:23).

Relationships are not a distraction from results—they are the delivery system. Organizations with high engagement significantly outperform their peers, not because they lower standards, but because trust accelerates execution.

Healthy leaders measure relational health alongside performance, correct privately, celebrate publicly, and slow down enough to truly see people. Presence often communicates value faster than policy ever will. People are not resources to consume; they are stewards to develop. And people, not processes, are the strategy.


Leadership Lie #5: “Once Things Calm Down, I’ll Lead Better”

This lie postpones obedience. It assumes leadership quality depends on circumstances rather than character.

David led faithfully in caves, on battlefields, and in palaces. Jesus affirmed the same principle: “Be faithful in little”(Luke 16:10). Leadership is never paused—it is revealed.

Waiting for calm before leading well is like waiting for traffic to clear before learning to drive. The answer is not fewer demands, but non‑negotiable rhythms that anchor leadership regardless of season. Decide who you are before pressure decides for you. Lead your energy before leading others. Practice faithfulness now, because better leadership later is built by obedience today.

Busyness often masks avoidance. Pruning the calendar and guarding energy creates space for wisdom. Lead with a “day one” mentality—urgent, disciplined, and anchored in purpose.


Turning Insight into Action

Awareness alone does not produce change. Application does.

This week, consider three simple but courageous steps:

  1. Identify one false belief that has shaped your leadership.
  2. Delegate one meaningful outcome, with clear success criteria.
  3. Pray one dangerous prayer:
    “Lord, help me trust You enough to let go.”

Use practical tools—written expectations, simple scorecards, regular check‑ins—to sustain clarity when pressure rises. As you replace false beliefs with truth, your words will plant better seeds, your culture will strengthen, and your results will scale through people, not around them.

The goal is not to do more.
It is to become a more faithful steward.

Lead well.
Steward wisely.
Trust God fully.